High Intention, Low Attachment.

This is an easy concept to grasp – until you’re in a situation where nothing seems to be working.  Then, it’s not so easy at all – until you actually have a couple successes using this principle.  Let me show you what I mean.

The basic idea is to set your goals and go after them with “high intention”.  This means that you have clarity what you want, you visualize the goals as already complete, you program your subconscious mind to work toward helping find creative ways to achieve the goals using what’s called affirmations and positive self-talk.  When you do all this you put out the intent to the universe that you will successfully achieve this goal.

So far, so good, right?

Low attachment means to relax and let resources line up to help you.  If you’re open and relaxed, then it’s easy to recognize opportunities, even the most subtle signals, as they present themselves to you.  This is also known as the idea of “letting go”.

To see how this works, let’s review the opposite.  Imagine a situation when you’re intense about your goals to the point that they are beginning to stress you out.  You obsess, staying up late thinking about that which you want.  Because you’re tired and stressed out, things seem to spiral in the wrong direction and get worse, not better.   (Raise your hand if this has ever happened to you.)

One example of this might be the girl (or guy) in her late 20s who is single and sees all her friends getting married.  She desperately decides she needs to meet Mr. Right, but can’t land a lasting relationship.  Contrast this with the time when she’s completely at peace with her independence and confident in her being whom she is, and then happens to meet the man of her dreams.  Perhaps you’ve heard someone’s story that found their spouse when they were not looking for a relationship?

To illustrate further, here’s my recent situation.  In my business, I have service lines where I have revenue in exchange for my actual time, and I have those service lines that are products and services that will yield sizable future revenue.  In the recent past, I had focused on these future business lines (including a book I’m writing) and allowed my working capital to drop below comfortable levels.  I was OK with this because I had a project lined up that would replenish my bank account that was starting shortly.

Well, that project was delayed, followed by reduction in scope, and finally the client having internal issues and postponing indefinitely.  I suddenly found that the income I had planned was no longer going to arrive on time to keep me comfortable.  My immediate reaction?  PANIC!  Honestly, it was only for about 24 hours, but during that time I had been thrown into the pit of despair (I think that was in a movie) and suddenly I wasn’t sure how I would pay the next set of bills.

The next morning I decided that the “how” didn’t matter (a key principle of high intention and low attachment), only that I had the clear intent to replace the income with a new client.  I was genuinely relaxed about this and simply “let go”.  As I completed a work out and then my daily meditation (which cleared my mind and relaxed me), I visualized the perfect client situation and then thought of a few people in my network to send emails to, and let them know that I had space on my calendar free up.

The next morning, I had in my email a request looking for my help on a multiple month assignment that would begin immediately.  Not that’s more like it!

What happened?  By letting go and not being so attached to “how” I would achieve this, I had changed my vibrational state to align with that which I was trying to create, which then allowed it to show up.  In the panic state I was previously in, there was no way that I would have attracted anything other than more reason to panic.

Now this takes practice, patience, and coaching (I have had all three of these).  It also helps to trust that it works, and to journal about these stories when they do occur.  I share my personal story because I want to demonstrate that even though we all go through these vicissitudes, there is a way out, even if the way is not clear to us at that time.

Practice high intention, then let go of needing to know exactly how your intent will be realized, and take the actions that seem right to you.  And as you have wins, please write to tell me about them.

To your highest success,

Pete Winiarski