Confessions of a Mastermind Dropout
Let me begin by stating for the record that I am a firm believer in the Mastermind process. Masterminding is one of the secrets of success that the top achievers practice. In fact, I first read about Mastermind teams in Jack Canfield’s The Success Principles and then noticed it again in Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich, and many times since.
Being active on a Mastermind Team is not a new concept, but it is indeed a powerful one that the masters, like Andrew Carnegie, Henry Ford, and other historic moguls have practiced all along their careers to power their climb to super results. These days, just about every success guru also actively participates on a Mastermind Team.
Masterminding is more than networking. The simple process works like this: a few like-minded and forward-thinking people get together regularly to support each others’ quests for their goals. Because the team understands that there is a higher power in the universe that actually helps us achieve our goals and fulfill our dreams, the meeting opens with a brief invocation to God (or your definition of a higher power) to ask for support and guidance. Then, the members in turn ask for specific help from each other to break through to the next level of success. The team provides ideas, resources, feedback, etc. in response to the request. Each member ends gratitude and with a commitment to some stretch action based on their desired goals and the input they received.
You can see how this process can power any motivated team to perform at levels way beyond what we could expect to do as individuals.
So why is this article suggesting I’m a Mastermind dropout? Recently, I made a difficult decision to leave my current Mastermind Team. This was difficult because it was my first Mastermind Team experience, I was part of the team for nearly two years, and I am a firm believer in the process.
Let me explain the dynamics of my decision, and hopefully you’ll identify and find a few nuggets of wisdom to take away.
I’ve always been completely dedicated to the success of the other team members. Even when I did not have a specific burning need to state my own specific request, I joined our calls to support my team members. Aside from the time that I worked in Europe (which was a few weeks so far in 2009 and for about three months in 2008), I think I made it to all but a couple of our bi-weekly calls.
I had recently noticed a shift in dedication from the team members (including me). Attendance was variable, and each meeting some of the team members (who would be great contributors to each person’s issues) would be absent. Naturally, things happen but the inconsistency had become disruptive as the 9-person team might have as few as 2-3 members on each call.
Interestingly, just a few months ago we had a guest “expert” Masterminder join our call for a number of weeks. He commented about how well we had our act together. That was only six months ago… How quickly things can change.
Lately, my energy had completely changed as I anticipated each call. The shift was from, “Cool – I have my Mastermind call tonight… I can’t wait to engage the team to get their ideas...” to, “Oh rats – Mastermind already? Didn’t we just have a call …?” It was becoming a distraction rather than a key to my future successes.
So, as with anything in my life that has become a distraction rather than a benefit helping to accelerate my success, I put this under the microscope. I challenged myself on the necessity of continuing to participate on this team, the value I was getting, and the value I was giving to others. The result? I was on the fence. I decided to see how the next call unfolded.
Well, I was the only member on that next call. I had missed the prior call when I was with a client in Ireland, so wondered if the team had made a change I didn’t know about. I sent out a quick message to make sure the dial-in number was right, to see if anyone else was on the line, etc. Sometimes the signals are just that strong.
I went to bed that night happy that I had an hour of time to work on some other things rather than be on the call – I was behind and needed the time.
The next morning, I read an email from one of the other team members – she was admitting that participating on the team was a burden for personal reasons, and was leaving the team.
If that wasn’t a smack between the eyes, I don’t know what is. I knew that I also wanted to leave the team but was conflicted – isn’t this process one of the most powerful success secrets there is? I closed my eyes to quiet my mind and let my intuition provide a clear answer.
I then decided to write a similar email to the team – the answer was for me to leave the team and to personally move on. I had become a Mastermind Dropout.
So what are the lessons here?
First, I do not take my commitments lightly. As long as I have the commitment to be an active part of the team (any team), then I’m going to play full out. This is being authentic and staying in integrity. For me, these values are high on my list, and I will not compromise them. As long as I was continuing to declare myself an active part of this team, I would play. If I was deciding in my mind to make a change, I would do so only after communicating with my team.
Second, It’s important to listen to your internal GPS prior to making a decision. I’ve spoken and written about this before and probably will again. Things had changed for me such that I was progressing very fast in my business these past few months, and I have had challenges meeting all my commitments (to my teams, my family, and myself). At the gut level, I was getting signals that it was time to change my participation on this team. If the emotions tied with a course of action are not empowering, then figure out what would shift them to become empowering emotions. I did listen and left the team.
Third, listen to your internal GPS after making a decision. This is important to confirm you did the right thing. In my case, I felt a sense of relief after I sent my note to the team. I felt a weight lift. I felt more free. All these signals are aligned with this being the right decision.
Fourth, “it’s not you, it’s me” is a valid reason. This is a big lesson for me, because I had been sticking with the team despite not getting my personal needs met. I was in it to support the other team members. While many would say that’s admirable, I want to point out that the satisfaction I get helping others isn’t the only consideration. Upon reflection, I realized that I really did need to make the change “for me”.
I want to end with a couple of quick thoughts and words of encouragement. Any challenging decision we make can help us personally move closer to our goals. I think if you stay in integrity, are clear about what you really want, and listen to your internal GPS – your intuition – then you will be okay. I will continue to follow this process for my own decisions.
As I described above, I am a big believer in the Mastermind process. I will take a little time to be clear about what I want, and I will certainly join or form another Mastermind Team when the time is right for me.
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Think for a moment and look at times where you’ve been faced with a tough decision. It might be continued participation on a voluntary team, such as my Mastermind example, or it could be your choice to stay in a job that isn’t challenging you, a business that isn’t satisfying you personally or financially the way it once was, or perhaps a relationship you’re not enjoying any longer. Reflect on the lessons above and see if you can find a way to stay in integrity while making the best decision for you. Listen to your internal GPS, and trust in the process.
To your highest success,
Pete Winiarski
Note: This article is published concurrent to the newsletter as a blog posting on the i-saga.net blog, SuccessStoriesBlog.net. Please visit the blog, and post a comment to let us know your thoughts about this article.
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